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Bridging the Gap
by Rabbi Dovid Abenson
Reviewed by Rabbi Matisyahu Salomon, mashgiach Beis Medrash Govoha, Lakewood

I consider it an honor to be associated with this exceptional work -- Rabbi Dovid Abenson's new sefer, -- Bridging the Gap.

Rabbi Abenson's great success lies in the fact that he has used his own life's experiences in order to help others. He is in essence saying to us: "I know what it means when things are not going the way they should. I know what it means to feel alone, I know what it means to need advice, and to need someone to care for me -- and so I know the advice needed to help others in similar situations!"

He has put these experiences into this book. It is almost as if the Ribono Shel Olom has especially placed him into those difficult circumstances in order to direct him to his tachlis in life -- and Rabbi Abenson has indeed followed the call of HaKodosh Boruch Hu. He could easily have achieved greater security and financial stability by going into more apparently lucrative professions. Instead, he wanted to guide others through the difficulties that he himself has experiences -- that is truly mesiras nefesh.

His merit for doing this is indeed very great. He has been blessed with great siyata deShmaya and has managed to do things that many people with greater potential and bigger abilities have not been able to achieve.

The secret of Rabbi Abenson's success is that he continually seeks advice from people with greater experience than himself. Perhaps Rabbi Abenson's greatest attribute is that at every step in his life he has never been afraid to ask advice. He continuously discusses whether what he is doing is right, what else must be done, and how it should be done. That was the reason he was able to compile this book.

Bridging the Gap has so very many useful ideas in it, with many inspirational lessons to help other people. This is an unusual merit, a unique area of harbotzas haTorah and zikui horabim, making a haromas horuach for many individuals.

Unfortunately, there are numerous people who feel lonely, isolated and uncared for, lacking basic skills. Many of the children whom we call "drop outs" have not become like that because they have a bigger yetzer hora than other people, but because they feel less cared for than other people.

Those children who fall through the cracks of our educational system have, very often, lost out on those fundamental skills that they should have acquired earlier in life. If we could only give them a little more care, a little extra understanding, or a little more help, an invaluable chizuk can be achieved, giving these people a feeling of value and self-esteem. Instead of, chas vesholom, dropping out altogether, they will want to achieve and stay within the fold, carrying on to reach high madreigos, which otherwise they would never have dreamt of before.

Through the program outlined in this book, Rabbi Dovid Abenson has managed to make unbelievable changes. Twenty years ago, I would never have imagined that even half of his achievements would have been possible.

Sharing one's knowledge requires a certain amount of mesiras nefesh. People imagine that if they start giving away their ideas and their trade secrets, then other people will go into competition with them, and threaten their whole parnossoh. This book, therefore, demonstrates the true mesiras nefesh of a Yid -- working only for the sake of Klal Yisroel, enabling other people to use some of his unique ideas.

May Hashem bless his work with much success, so that Klal Yisroel will get great benefit from his programs!


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