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Home and Family
The Shidduch
by Sudy Rosengarten

Part II

Synopsis: Naomi, twenty-five, tall, talented and still single, moves in with Ruth and Aharon, who are determined to exit her -- married. Shadchonim, the old-fashioned ones, abound, but the two reject their suggestions, one by one.

Ever since he and his family had made aliya, Aharon and their next-door neighbor, Moishe Chayim, studied together every night. At the end of their night session, they would shmooze over a cup of tea.

"I hear that your house guest is doing a tremendous job in the new school for special children. Tell me, why isn't she married yet?"

"Who knows?" Aharon shrugged. "Naomi's certainly had enough opportunities. But if you ask me..." he added, lowering his voice, "I'm not sure that she really wants to get married."

Moishe Chayim looked up in surprise. "Really? What a shame! What a waste!" He sipped his tea in silence, then mused aloud. "Reminds me of my cousin Zelig. He's twenty-eight and still not married. His rebbe, contrary to accepted rabbinical opinion, says that as long as Torah is his only love he can keep learning."

"Sounds a little strange to me. Who is this rabbi?"

"A big talmid chochom, Rabbi Hart. But Zelig's parents are heartbroken. They want to see him married."

"What made you think of him now?"

Moshe Chayim pulled at his beard. "Oh, yes. You said that you suspected that your young lady guest wasn't serious about marriage. That's what reminded me of Zelig."

"How old did you say he is?"

"Twenty-eight."

Moishe Chayim suddenly snapped his fingers and jumped up with a shout. "Of course! Why didn't I think of it before? Those two would make a fantastic couple!"

"But didn't you just say that he doesn't want to get married?" Aharon asked.

"He doesn't want to get married. She doesn't want to get married. A perfect match!"

"What makes you think that he'll be ready now?"

"He's an only child. His parents are old and ailing and they long to see him settled with a new generation on the way. Under the circumstances, Rabbi Hart will have no choice but to allow Zelig to comply with his parents' wishes. Oh, this is great! I'll call them first thing in the morning."

*

After getting an enthusiastic O.K. from Zelig's parents, Moishe Chayim arranged for Aharon to meet Zelig. He came back with a raving report. From all that he'd heard and from all that he'd seen, Aharon was certain that it was a match made in Heaven. A heart of gold, the soul of a saint. Zelig had already made a ripple in Torah circles as a scholar. Naomi would finally be rewarded with the husband she deserved. And this time, they wouldn't take `no' for an answer.

Zelig's parents came to see Naomi, were won over with her modest ways. Arrangements were then made for Zelig to meet Naomi.

That night, Ruth served an early supper, bathed and bedded down the kids. She wanted a quiet house when Zelig arrived.

"Mommy, I'm thirsty."

"O.K. Yossele, go take a drink."

"Mommy, I'm also thirsty."

"Me, too."

Five little darlings, smiling from ear to ear, paraded into the kitchen for drinks.

"O.K. everybody, back into bed with you!" Ruth told them, reaching for the strap that hung on the wall.

"No, no, we're going," Daughter No. 3 laughed, holding on protectively to the seat of her pajamas, knowing her mother didn't intend to use it.

Then Child No. 5 remembered he had better go to the bathroom. That started a new exodus and Child No. 4 remembered that she still hadn't kissed the mezuza.

"Peace for the whole world!" Kiss. "Moshiach should come already." Kiss. "Hashem should send Naomi a husband." Kiss. Kiss. Kiss.

Finally, they were all back in bed. But though the clock was turning, no one was sleeping. Each child instinctively knew that something exciting was going to happen...

The doorbell rang. Naomi turned pale. "No, please don't answer yet," she begged Ruth in a little voice that echoed panic.

"Naomi, don't be so jittery," Ruth said kindly. "Aharon is sure that you'll both hit it off fine. You'll see. Oh, there goes the bell again." It sounded insistent. "It must be him..."

Ruth said a little prayer and went to the door. She put on a smile and pulled it open.

Instead of Moishe Chayim and Zelig, a beggar stood there. His eyes were sad; his hand was stretched out. Ruth gave him a coin and glanced at her watch. They were twenty minutes late.

She went back to the kitchen. The doorbell rang again. This time Aharon went to answer it. She heard the exchange of warm greetings, told Naomi that she'd soon be back, and left to join the guests in the Shabbos room.

As the men made conversation, she observed Zelig from the corner of her eye. Not bad looking, she thought. He gives the impression of being strong. An intelligent face, beautiful long, tapered fingers, clean nails (that were making designs on the tablecloth), almond shaped eyes full of expression. Doesn't seem too happy to be here...

She asked to be excused and went to get Naomi.

After a few minutes, Moishe Chayim got up to leave, explaining that he'd promised his wife that he'd be home early. Aharon and Ruth saw him to the door.

Although Naomi and Zelig hadn't said a word to each other while the others were in the room, once alone, there was a steady hum of conversation, broken only by occasional laughter.

*

Aharon yawned, looked up at the wall clock. "The buses will soon stop running," he told Ruth.

"Maybe you should knock on the door and tell him."

"If they're still talking, I'd rather not disturb them."

In a little while, there was silence and the doors of the Shabbos room rolled open. Naomi came in to tell them Zelig was leaving and wanted to say good-night to them both.

When they came to the door, Zelig shook hands with Aharon and smiled to Ruth. She blinked hard. When Zelig had entered their house, he had been pale and solemn. Now he was radiant.

"I'll be in touch with Moishe Chayim," he said as he left, and nodded to Naomi.

"Nu?" Aharon asked, as they sat drinking tea. "How did it go?"

"He's very nice," Naomi said quietly.

"You certainly had a lot to talk about," Ruth teased. "You were in there talking non-stop for three hours straight!"

"That's because there was nothing that we agreed on, and he was trying to convince me."

"Did he?"

"No."

"So what was he so happy about when he came out?"

"What makes you think he was happy?"

"Well, he absolutely shone!"

Naomi blushed. "I really wouldn't know about that... But he's very nice."

*

From the window, Ruth could see all the children on the block congregated in front of the house, excitedly waiting for the bride to come out. A taxi pulled up, the driver honked the horn. Everyone took a last look in the mirror and started down. The neighbors stood in their open doorways, blessing Naomi as she passed. "It should be with mazel and joy." They wiped at their tears.

*

The music stopped. The crowd pushed back. Zelig reached for the veil that his mother held and spread it over Naomi's hair and face.

Zelig's father stepped closer, placed his hands over the bride's veiled head and with tears streaming down his face, he whispered, "May you be as our Matriarchs, Sora, Rivka, Rochel and Leah. May Hashem bless you..."

*

A hush filled the garden, a silence filled the night. All that could be heard was the sound of Zelig praying. Standing beneath the canopy, he seemed to be in another world, a High Priest in the Beis Hamikdosh, a cherub covering the Ark. A whisper of violin tore at the silence. An undefined ache tugged at the soul.

A somber spirit filled the hall. Like that of Yom Kippur when the Gates of Heaven close . . .

 

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