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IN-DEPTH FEATURES
Chapter Twenty-One: Master and Father of the
Diaspora
from the memoirs of Rabbi Shlomo Lorincz, shlita
I have already mentioned what I heard from Maran
ztvk'l, that greatness in Torah goes hand in hand with
greatness in fine character traits. Indeed, Rabbenu practiced
what he preached, and even though he was totally immersed in
Torah, he was also absorbed in the attribute of
chessed with all his limbs and sinews. Witness one who
testified for him: the Mashgiach, Maran HaRav Yechezkel
Levenstein zt'l, who averred that Rabbenu was "one of
the biggest baalei chessed in our generation" (as
quoted in Shimusha Shel Torah). It should be
remembered how careful the Mashgiach was never to exaggerate
or veer from the exact truth.
Visiting Hours Twenty-Four Hours a Day
It sometimes happened that someone would knock at Maran's
door as late as 2 a.m. Since everyone was already fast
asleep, he would open the door himself to receive his
visitor.
When he was asked why he agreed to see people at that
unearthly hour, since it was taxing him beyond his capacity,
he replied, "This is what I saw, and what I learned, by my
uncle, R' Isser Zalman Meltzer — that one had to be
devoted to the public twenty-four hours a day, and open the
door whenever someone knocked — even at two in the
morning. You never know when some brokenhearted person is
standing behind that door . . . And so, being in doubt, I
open the door for everyone; I receive whoever comes
knocking."
When Maran was in a state of weakness, his family used to put
a sign on the door that Maran was ill and couldn't receive
the public. But when Maran began to notice that people
weren't coming as frequently as before, he inquired about it
and the family reluctantly admitted that they had put a sign
on the door. Maran got up, went outside and removed the sign
himself, saying, "I refuse to limit the visits. Everyone can
come and see me, whether I feel well or not."
People used to come at mealtimes, too. When Maran saw he had
visitors, he would stop eating and devote his attention to
them. His family had to see to it that he did not notice
people coming in while he was eating so that at least he
could eat in peace.
What Occupied Maran on the Night of Bedikas
Chometz?
A young man once came to Maran on the night of bedikas
chometz and poured out a tale of woe. Maran realized that
he needed professional help and immediately contacted R'
Shlomo Hoffman from Jerusalem, asking that he receive him.
Rabbi Hoffman was surprised at the request and didn't hide
his astonishment that he agree to see him on bedikas
chometz night. Maran assured him, "Yes, I mean tonight.
If a young man is on the verge of a nervous breakdown, one
must help him. I am talking to him too, and I will accompany
him."
Rabbi Hoffman said, "If the Rosh Yeshiva asks me to receive
him, I will do so, even tonight of all nights, but only on
condition that you don't trouble yourself to accompany
him."
The young man arrived at midnight and remained by Rabbi
Hoffman until 2 a.m. When he left the house, Rabbi Hoffman
noticed Maran waiting for him downstairs. He quickly went to
him and said, "But didn't I make up with you that I would
receive him on condition that you not come? Why did you come
after all?"
Maran's reply was, "One doesn't send a son in distress all
alone . . . "
Who can explain this in mere words? You have to feel it . .
.
What love, what concern, what kindness, what devotion! He was
not a biological son; there was thousands of students like
him. And yet, on the night of bedikas chometz (!)
Maran picked himself up and escorted this young man all the
way to Jerusalem. He had agreed to the condition not to come,
because someone had been concerned not to trouble him, not to
waste his precious time. And yet there he was, downstairs,
having spent the past two hours waiting, so that when the
young man left, he would have whom to talk to! And why?
Because, "one doesn't send a son alone."
Travel Even on Erev Rosh Hashonoh
Maran once felt that a certain student required psychiatric
treatment. It was two days before Rosh Hashonoh. Maran turned
to his loyal student and confidant HaRav Meir Heisler, and
asked him to make an appointment with the head of the
yeshiva ketanoh which the said student had attended so
that he might be able to get to the root of his problem.
"I understand that Maran wants to meet with him immediately
after Rosh Hashonoh," said R' Meir to Maran.
But Maran replied, "I want to meet with him right away
— before Rosh Hashonoh. Tell him that I will come to
Jerusalem to see him tomorrow at two in the afternoon."
Let us not forgot that in those times, a trip to Jerusalem
took two hours one way: first by bus to Tel Aviv and from
there to Jerusalem. And then a return trip from Jerusalem to
Bnei Brak.
The Rosh Yeshiva was taken aback when he heard the request.
But one did not refuse Maran and so the meeting took place on
Erev Rosh Hashonoh in the afternoon.
How Maran Supported an Unknown Avreich
Rabbi T. from Yeshivas Torah Ohr approached me one day and
said, "I have a story to tell you involving Maran."
It took place when Rav T. was a member of a certain
kollel. At the end of the zman, he was informed
that he wouldn't be able to continue on there. Rav T. was at
a loss. He felt that finding another kollel would be
particularly difficult for him. He had no one to ask for
advice. Where could he turn?
He had heard that everyone went to Maran for advice and he
decided to turn to him as well, without any introduction from
someone who knew him or having had any previous contact with
him. He asked Maran what to do in his situation. Without a
kollel, he would have no choice but to go out to work
in order to support his family, since the many
kollelim he had approached had no opening for him.
On the spot, Maran handed him a sum of money that would tide
him over for the entire coming winter and said, "Go and learn
wherever you like, wherever you think you will advance best.
You don't have to take money from any kollel. If you
have problems after that, come to me again and I will
continue helping you out."
Rav T. told me this with great wonder in his voice. "He
didn't know me at all. I was a nonentity with no connection
to him whatsoever. I had merely come for advice, not for
money, and lo! He had given me a sum large enough to support
me for months, so I could continue to be a ben
Torah!"
"Your Son Said an Excellent Svoroh in the Shiur
Today!"
Whenever a certain orphan, whose widowed mother toiled very
hard to support her family, said a good svoroh in the
shiur, Maran would take the trouble to call his mother
and convey the good news to her. "Know," he would inform her
personally, "that your son said something excellent today!"
(Shimushah Shel Torah)
A Good Feeling about Torah Study is Virtual
Pikuach Nefesh
The following story was told to me by R' Meir Heisler, one of
Maran's favored and beloved disciples.
He was present when Maran called a meeting of public figures,
primarily from abroad, to discuss an important public matter.
It was decided that since this was a very important
conference, no one would be allowed to see Maran that day.
But along comes a father with his fourteen-year- old son,
asking all those present to grant him permission to speak
with Maran alone for just a few moments to receive a blessing
that his son be successful in his Torah studies. Those
gathered agreed that if it was for only a minute, they were
prepared to wait.
The two went in to see Maran, but remained inside for a long
time, relates R' Meir. "If my memory serves me, it was for an
hour, or maybe, an hour and a half."
When they left, the distinguished people who had been left
waiting outside expressed their anger, "How could you do such
a thing? You said a minute, and stayed well over an hour!"
The father replied, "It isn't my fault. I really only
expected to stay for a minute. When I asked for a blessing
that my son advance in his Torah studies, Maran turned to him
and asked if he enjoyed learning. My son replied that he did
not especially like it. `Why?" asked Maran, and my son
replied, `Because I never understand what's going on.'
"Maran asked him what they were learning, and he replied,
`Eilu Metziyos.' Thereupon, Maran took out two
gemoras and spread them on the table, one for him and
one for my son. He began explaining to him the topic of
yi'ush shelo mida'as as only he could explain it.
Finally, he asked him, `Do you understand it now?' My son
said, `Yes, I understand it very well now,' and began crying.
Maran asked him why he was crying and he said he was crying
from joy, the joy of finally, for the first time in his life,
being able to understand thoroughly what he had been
learning. `This is the first time that I actually found joy
and taam in what I am learning.'
"After that, Maran gave him a blessing and said, `If that is
the case, I bless you to always be able to find taam
in your study and to be successful in it.' So you see," he
concluded, `it wasn't my fault. I certainly couldn't
interrupt Maran while he was sitting and studying with my
son!' "
Maran emerged immediately after and excused himself for
having kept everyone waiting. "I couldn't have cut that visit
short," he apologized. "It was important that I devote my
full attention and time to it." He was so exhausted however,
that he asked for the meeting to be rescheduled for the
following day.
R' Meir added that Maran had explained why he had spent so
much time with that boy who had experienced `no
geshmack in his learning.' "Enjoying the taste in
Torah study," Maran declared, "is a matter of pikuach
nefesh. Anyone lacking enjoyment in study is like someone
mortally ill, and for this matter of pikuach nefesh,
it was necessary for me to devote some time, even if it was
at the expense of important people waiting outside."
A Place in a Vacation Resort
I heard the following story from R' Mordechai Apolion, a rosh
yeshiva of Kiryat Telz. He approached me knowing that I had
been very close to Maran, and that everything that had to do
with him was most treasured and cherished by me.
Rabbi Apolion told me that his father had been registered in
a vacation resort in Chazon Yechezkel which had been
organized by the Zeirei Agudas Yisroel movement. The demand
was great and the number of accommodations very limited.
After having registered, my father changed his mind,
cancelled the reservation and got back his down payment.
A short time later, he regretted the cancellation and wished
to register again. But it was too late; by then they were
completely filled up. He had forfeited his chance.
"I was then a boy of about 17. My father asked me to go to
see Maran and ask him for help. It was very common practice
then that whenever someone needed something, Maran was the
address even though he didn't know me.
"I was reluctant to do so and said to my father: `How can I
ask him for help in a matter like this? It has nothing to do
with Maran! Besides, I have no connection to him. I am only a
young student in the yeshiva; I really don't dare go to him
for such a thing.' "
R' Mordechai's father begged him and even commanded him as
his obligation for kibbud ov. And so, he had no choice
but to go.
"I entered Maran's room, trembling all over. I literally
couldn't open my mouth for fear but I finally was able to
tell him the whole story, explaining that my father had
expressly commanded me to ask him for his help. I added that
my father worked very hard all year long and needed to
refresh his energies in relaxing surroundings."
Thereupon, Maran went over to the telephone and called up the
Zeirei office. He told them the story, adding, "I understand
that when someone cancels a reservation, his place is given
to another person. I also understand that you don't have any
more room or else you would surely accept him. But this is a
man who works very hard all year long and needs the
recreation. He has no other place to go. Please, I am
pleading with you, add an extra bed somewhere and find a way
to accommodate him, after all!"
After a personal request like this, to be sure, they found a
solution and made room for him.
We are talking about a working man, not a ben yeshiva,
someone who had no connection to Maran. But Maran understood
that someone needed his help, and that whoever turned to him,
expected to be helped and would not go away disappointed. And
Maran, as a true baal chessed, loved every single Jew
and felt he had to help them without any exception, even if
he was not a Torah scholar, for after all, he was a Jew, a
son . . .
Like One Helps a Son . . .
The daughter of a storekeeper from Cholon to whom Maran was
beholden for a favor, became engaged and her father came to
Maran for a blessing. Maran gave it wholeheartedly and then
asked, "Is there any way I can help you?"
The Jew admitted that he needed a loan, and that there was a
big free loan gemach in Jerusalem but since they did
not know him, he needed a recommendation. Could Maran vouch
for him? Maran was very happy to oblige.
But Maran did not recommend. He picked himself up and went to
the gemach in Jerusalem himself, arranged for the loan
and upon his return, informed the storekeeper that he had the
money and he could come and get it.
The Jew was beside himself. "What do you mean? I didn't dream
of bothering you to such an extent! All I wanted was a letter
of recommendation. Two lines with your signature would have
been sufficient!"
Maran laughed and said, "If one wants to help, you have to do
it with all your heart, just like one would help out a son. I
would not have acquitted my duty with a mere recommendation.
One has to do something properly, from beginning to end."
Why did Maran go to Jerusalem?
A young avreich was offered a position in Bnei Brak
and another one in Jerusalem. Which one should he take? He
went to Maran for advice and Maran told him to come back in a
few days time, when he would have an answer for him.
When he returned, Maran advised him to take the job in
Jerusalem. He went there for the interview and was accepted.
In the course of the meeting, the Rosh Yeshiva asked him,
"Tell me, what is your connection to Maran? Are you
related?"
"Not at all, I only went to him to ask his opinion if I
should apply for this job or for another."
"That's all?" marveled the Rosh Yeshiva. "Then this is
unbelievable! You should know that Maran came here in person
to inquire all the details and conditions about the position.
He must have done so in order to give you a well- informed
opinion so that you could make up your mind which was best
for you!"
This is how a father relates to a son. That young man was not
the only one who asked Maran for advice and yet, Maran did
not suffice with a superficial reply but actually took the
trouble to investigate the matter personally and give him the
best possible advice!
"I Still Pray for Him Three Times a
Day!"
A Jew from England whose son was very ill asked Maran to pray
for him. Several years later, Maran met him again and asked
how his son was. The father replied that he had recovered
very quickly and thank G-d, he was fine now.
"Why didn't you tell me he was better?" Maran asked. "Ever
since then, I have been praying for your son three times a
day!"
This was Maran's dedication. Even though he had received no
communication for several years, he had continued praying for
the sick child and not erased the name from his list. All
this time, he was still praying for his recovery . . .
(Shimushah Shel Torah)
Up from his Sickbed and Out to the Street . . .
One time, when Maran was ill and lay in bed with a forty
degree C. fever (104F), he was told that a young man had
come, seeking to talk to him. Maran knew the one in question
and was aware that the matter he wished to discuss was very
complex. Nevertheless, he immediately got dressed and went
outside to talk to him.
Those attending him objected and said, "We understand that it
must be an important matter. But why must you trouble
yourself to go out to him with such a fever?"
"His problem is very difficult. I really don't know how to
help him. I want, at least, to show how much I care, how
concerned I am for him. I hope that in the merit of my
mesirus nefesh, I will gain special Heavenly
assistance to know how to help him."
What more is there left to say? An amazing story, almost
incredible. Only one who is wholly chessed, goodness
and kindness, who is overflowing with love for his fellow
creature and devoted to every single individual, is capable
of such an act of caring.
High Regard for the Original Work of a Young
Torah Scholar
When my son R' Yosef Arye completed his first work,
Mishnas R' Akiva Eiger, I brought him in to Maran to
show him the manuscript and ask for a recommendation. Maran
said that he no longer gave recommendations, since he found
it very difficult to look the works through. But he added,
"Leave the proofs here by me and if I have the strength, I
will try to look them over."
When we returned a few days later, Maran said, "I succeeded
in looking over several topics in the book and I have decided
to give my haskomoh, since it is the kind of work that
will always be on the shtender and not in the
bookcase. It will be a work that is studied constantly and
will bring much benefit to people."
My son was greatly encouraged by Maran's words. When the book
left the printer, I again took my son to Maran to present him
with the finished product. Maran was happy to receive it but
insisted that he wished to pay for it. He got up, went over
to his closet, took out a hundred dollar bill and gave it to
my son, who was astounded and said that it only cost fifteen
shekel.
Maran laughed. "I know that you don't charge $100 for your
book. I am giving you that amount to show you how much I
value it!"
You can imagine how encouraging those words were to a young
scholar!
A year or two later, my son brought his second work to
present to Maran. On the following morning, at six a.m., he
got a call from R' Chananya Cholek, telling him that Maran
had asked that he come to him. "But I haven't even
davened yet," he said. "Let me first daven, eat
breakfast, and then I'll go to Maran."
"What do you mean? You must come right now! Maran called me
at four in the morning, telling me to contact you. But I said
I didn't want to wake you up so early. But you should know
that he has been waiting for you since four o'clock!"
Full of awe and trepidation, my son hurried off to Maran's
house, wondering what was so urgent. When he went in to him,
Maran said, "Last night, when you gave me the book, I was
very tired and weak and didn't have the strength to thank
you. Nor did I pay you for it. I feel very uneasy and
uncomfortable about it. I want to thank you now and express
my admiration for your work. And I want to pay you, too."
This time, again, Maran went to his closet, took out a $100
bill and gave it to him like the previous time.
I am sure this was not an isolated incident. He was not so
generous because it was my son; rather, this was his way of
encouraging people and building up their self esteem so that
they desire to continue to progress in Torah.
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