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Home and Family

Giving More
By A. Flam

Leah Avrahami cast wondering eyes on the girls in front of her:

"So why didn't you come to ask?"

The question hung for several seconds in the small room. Larissa didn't hurry to respond, while Esther stubbornly played with her braid. Leah motioned for them to sit and they did so silently, slightly embarrassed. Suddenly she had a new idea.

"Do you feel comfortable in class?" She asked brightly.

"Us?" Larissa threw out quickly, "Of course we do," Esther slightly loosened her hold on her braid and added in a quiet voice, "Why shouldn't we? What's the connection, anyway?"

Leah sighed. Yesterday the 10th grade homeroom teacher had called: Larissa and Esther weren't registered for the big class trip. She asked Leah to check into it. Leah was the housemother of the dormitory in which Larissa, Esther, as well as a few other girls from the class, lived. She always went above and beyond the call of duty in order to improve the morale of the girls. The rooms had a warm and homey atmosphere. There remained not a trace of the squeaky bunk beds or the rusty and dark iron cupboard. Each room contained new formica furniture, bright lamps and a matching curtain that waved in front of a polished window. Even her own children didn't have such a room.

Leah's ambition was to make the dormitory girls feel on par with the rest of their friends in class, those who would sling their bags over their shoulders at the end of the day and march home to tell their mothers their experiences at the seminary, with a backdrop of a steaming plate of lunch and the young voices of their younger siblings.

Indeed, a steaming plate always awaited the dormitory girls, nutritious and varied, and with the most home-cooked taste possible. Young voices also weren't lacking a few tables away where the girls from kindergarten and the lower grades sat and ate with sweet ringing voices: "Miss, can you give me some rice?" Only a mother was missing in this scenery where so much had been invested.

As soon as the teacher had called, Leah knew what was behind the girls' refusal -- the hundred shekels for the trip. Esther has a sick father, and a mother who was fighting for survival. Esther doesn't even ask, she doesn't consider it a great pleasure to hear, "There isn't any," from her parents who would like to give her everything possible. It was just that a hundred shekels was impossible. And Larissa? Larissa, who has been wearing the same skirt for three years and re- dyes her shoes each season — from where would she get such an astronomical sum: one hundred shekels?

The dormitory administration helped the girls as much as they could. Girls suffering from economic woes were assisted in every way possible. School supplies were bought for them, a school uniform, even soap and toothpaste. Why didn't they request assistance in paying for the trip? Leah's confusion returned and heightened in light of the faces of the two girls who sat stubbornly and in silence.

"If you're happy in class," Leah finally broke the silence, "what's the reason that you don't want to go on the trip? Why didn't you ask for the money?"

"Look," Larissa tried to sound confident and honest, "I don't think it's so terrible if I don't go. I've been putting off all kinds of important errands that I have to do and there's the paper that I have to finish already. If I don't go, I'll have a free day to finish it all up..."

"Really," Esther cut her off, encouraged by the thread of finality that Larissa had woven into her explanation, "we've already gone on so many trips, it won't be so terrible if we miss one trip. I'm thinking of going home to visit. That could be very nice, actually."

Leah held her peace with a closed expression, even though in her heart, her amazement didn't abate. Larissa's paper was almost finished and except for an introduction, there was nothing more to invest in it. And only this week, the girls had gone home for Shabbos, so that being homesick wasn't exactly overwhelming Esther. So why really didn't they come and ask? She gave them another look. Maybe they'd give a real reason after all. But the girls facing her maintained their silence stubbornly and confidently.

*

Leah quickly sprayed from the blue bottle and skillfully wiped the window. For her, Thursday was more challenging than any other day of the week. Work at the dormitory was in full swing. She had to supervise the girls so that they would complete their weekly roster of chores, fill the order that had arrived from the kitchen and authorize unscheduled leaves from school. Only late in the afternoon was she free to go home, where her mop and pail, mixing bowl and a chicken defrosting on the counter, were awaiting her arrival.

This particular Thursday, Leah quickly finished the large window in the living room and turned to dust the bookcase. A lock of blond hair peeked out from the doorway.

"Ima, look what's written here," Shoshi offered her mother the paper with one hand (the second held a mop). Leah took the paper and scanned the lines that Shoshi pointed to.

"Today Only," the headline said, a standard ad for a children's clothing sale. But in a moment, Leah understood what it was about. The sale included an amazing collection of brand names at bargain prices. "Only for cardholders of `Clothing Club', the bottom line read.

"`Clothing Club'?" Leah wasn't familiar with a company or store with that name but the prices were certainly surprising.

Leah abandoned the idea of washing the balcony floor, postponed her baking and turned to change her housecoat for civilian clothes. After a half hour, she arrived at the address in the ad. The place was buzzing with women who crowded the small shelter, looking through piles of merchandise that were piled on shelves and hanging on racks.

But Leah smelled a rat. Something seemed unnatural about this sale. The crowd looked different from what you usually see at sales. And the cashiers and salesladies, they usually have no place here. On the other hand, the prices were surprisingly low and the merchandise certainly first rate.

"What's going on here?" she asked herself surprised as she piled winter undershirts into a purple plastic basket. She added another few pairs of socks and cute baby clothes which were selling for pennies. "Yehudit won't believe it when she sees the prices of these clothes." She thought of her married daughter who would be happy to get something for her baby. In contrast to the eagerness which possessed her, the atmosphere around her was serene as ever. Her suspicions grew.

Leah approached the cash with three overflowing baskets and her wallet open and ready. "Can I see your membership card?" the gentle woman on the other side of the counter asked quietly. Leah was momentarily confused. She had completely forgotten about that, but recovered immediately:

"I don't have one yet but I'll be very happy to buy one. How does one join the club?" In her enthusiasm she didn't notice the thin smile spreading on the face of the woman opposite her:

"You don't have to buy a card, you get it for free. That is, if you meet the criteria." Leah loosened her hold slightly on the purple baskets.

"Criteria?" Her suspicions took on the form of a flashing red light.

"Yes, the sale is meant for families who are blessed with many children, undergoing financial difficulties. If you want to join, you have to send the tab on your ID card which lists your children to the office of the organization . . . "

Leah's face changed shades and she became dumb from astonishment.

"Uh... yes... well, I think... that I'm not eligible... I just... I didn't know about any of this..." she said at last with supreme effort, clearing the way for the next lady.

It was just a distribution of some chessed organization. Things fell into place in her head. The salesladies are the organizations representatives and that's why they look more like rebbetzins than salesladies. And the women, well, this isn't a group who are used to sales because they can't allow themselves the luxury of buying at them.

Weak-kneed, she returned the merchandise to its place, refusing to believe that it had all been a lovely dream and she wouldn't be able to buy the nice skirt at such a low price. She dragged her feet over to the bus stop, her arms empty and her heart heavy, as the wonder and disappointment were giving way to growing frustration. She remembered the chores she hadn't completed and those still waiting for her, and a feeling of injustice spread through her: Why wasn't it even hinted at that it was a chessed organization? Just like that to inconvenience a woman on a pressured Thursday and only at the end to let her know that she wasn't eligible. She felt anger, as well. What, all of a sudden, was this membership card for the Clothing Club?

A smile fought its way to her face. It would have been more appropriate to request a card membership for "Chassdei Yossef" or "Love Your Neighbor" or whatever they called themselves. In any case, you don't call this a "Sale". A "Distribution" was the right word. So why had they written everything in such a confusing and misleading way?

Two women had arrived at the bus stop speaking quietly, their arms full of overflowing packages. They, obviously, possessed a club card.

"That was a successful buy," said one in a quiet voice.

"There were real bargains this time," added the other. "This sale was really worthwhile."

Buy? Sale? Worthwhile bargains? What's going on here?

"I convinced my neighbor to come and she enjoyed it so much."

"It's a shame that the stockings were a bit expensive . . . They're good quality." One of the women bent over her bag and took something out.

"You see? It'll fit Devorah... It's exactly her size."

Leah's anger dissipated slowly and sparks of understanding began to glow. They were talking as if they had really returned from a sale and not a... distribution. Comprehension dawned. It was clear. They hadn't come to a Gemach or a Chessed organization. They had simply come to a sale with low prices and they had a membership card in the Clothing Club not Chasdei Yitzchak, not Ezrat Menachem, not a support group. Of course not — just a regular sale.

She arrived home with a light heart and a full head and went to sift flour without a shadow of resentment. When the aroma of the challos permeated the house at a late and impossible hour, Leah knew that she had a solution. Why not? Can't somebody copy success?

*

"Esther, Noa, Larissa and Sarah," Shuli from 11th Grade called into the rooms. The four girls rushed out.

"What's happened?"

"Nothing, why are you so nervous?" the girl laughed. "The house mother is waiting for you downstairs in her room; she needs you to help her." The four girls descended the stairs, chatting calmly.

"Sonia won't be here today or tomorrow," she told them, purposely avoiding Larissa and Esther's eyes. "I thought maybe you could fill her shoes instead of our having to look for someone from outside," she explained apologetically. "Since your class finished early today, I thought you'd be free to work in the laundry room."

Larissa blinked unhappily. Leah caught it before she said something. "And, of course, you'll be paid." The girls looked at her obviously surprised and suddenly Larissa didn't want to say anything. "Is there anyone who isn't interested?" Leah asked in the calmest tone she could. Noa raised her hand.

"I prefer not to," she said hesitantly.

"Me, neither" Sarah joined in. "I have a lot of homework and I'm afraid I won't get it done." Leah smiled relieved. The plan was working.

"You're excused then, Noa and Sarah."

Larissa and Esther worked without pause, sorting, working the machines and folding. They returned sweaty to Leah informing her that not a sock remained in the laundry room and that they wanted to come back tomorrow. At the end of the next work day, Leah gave them 130 shekels each and many thanks for their lifesaving help. In her heart she thanked the Master of the Universe for her success.

*

The bus took off with 32 happy girls on board and backpacks filled with good things. One of the girls put a tape into the cassette and lively sounds were heard between the seats.

Larissa bent over her bag and took out a colorful, rustling bag. She opened it wide and offered crispy chips to those around her. A couple of the girls thanked her and helped themselves. Larissa suddenly joined in with the singing. What a miracle that Sonia hadn't come right before the trip, and how wonderful that she had had 30 shekels left to buy some snacks.

 

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