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IN-DEPTH FEATURES
To go or not to go? The nerve-racking question bothered me
incessantly. My son had invited me to come to Yerushalayim
and experience the taste of Purim in Yerushalayim for real
but, his enthusiasm aside, I was skeptical. What with the
security situation as it is, my doubts were rising. In the
end, it was the pleading of the children that persuaded me.
"Zeidy, it's really not scary here at all! The only Arabs
you'll see in our neighborhood are our friends in their Purim
costumes."
By the time it came to mid-morning on Purim I was not sorry I
came. Walking through the streets I was simply inhaling the
Purim atmosphere, my eyes unable to focus on all the hustle
and bustle around me. (Perhaps I had drunk one too many
already?)
Then at 1:40 suddenly the pace around me quickened. Everyone
was rushing in one direction. As I was propelled forward in
the moving mass of humanity, my heartbeat quickened. I was
worried, but a nervous glance at those nearest to me showed
that none of their faces radiated fear. In fact, they were
all smiling, heading forwards together with purposeful
strides. And then again, it wasn't everyone in one direction.
One crowd was turning off into a side street and disappearing
into a building. Another group of men and boys were actually
streaming in the opposite direction.
Rather perplexed, I allowed myself to be swept along, up the
broad steps and into the wide hall of a shul. And that's when
the walking stopped. The sight that met my eyes shell-shocked
me more than my previous, unfounded fear.
Rows upon rows of fathers and sons were laid out before me as
a Purim feast, with brightly colored costumes, strange wigs
and hats of every size and shape. Cheeky faces grubby with
makeup and shalach manos nosh were seriously poring
over seforim. A cross-eyed clown gestured articulately
in kushyos and teshuvos to a white-bearded man
in a Turkish fez.
And all around, the familiar sound towards which every Jew
has a particular nostalgia. That of his yeshiva days.
Time stood still and I, transported into another world, felt
my eyes again unable to focus. But I was sober now, wasn't I?
Deftly I wiped away the tear forming in the corner of my eye,
so I could absorb what I was witnessing: Yeshivas Mordechai
Hatzaddik 5753.
How It All Began
If Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik is the yeshiva gedolah,
then its springboard and yeshiva ketana must be
Ovos Uvonim.
Ovos Uvonim is an initiative that was started in Gateshead,
England some ten years ago. Rav Yechiel Cohen and Reb David
Shleider, organizers of the local youth group, sympathized
with all the fathers who never had time to learn with their
children -- and with children who never got a chance to learn
with their fathers -- and they invented a scheme that would
solve this once and for all. All winter, every motzei
Shabbos, any child who came to learn with his father in
shul would get a prize. For one designated hour,
avos and bonim would learn together. The kids
would go home with a treat, and the regulars would earn
points towards large prizes.
This was a win-win-win idea. Everyone was happy. Within a few
years, this extremely successful program had grown to the
point that it was thriving in Eretz Yisroel, where people
were coming not only on winter motzei Shabbosim, but
on Friday afternoons in the summer as well. Whole families
would finish their Shabbos preparations early so that the
fathers could go to shul with their sons to learn.
It was in Eretz Yisroel that Ovos Uvonim took off in earnest.
Rav Yechiel's father, Rav Yisroel Cohen, and Reb David
Hershkowitz picked up the idea and brought it back home to
Bayit Vegan with them in 5758/1998, starting with a group in
a local shul. Within two weeks so many people were attending
that the program had to move to the nearby Gra shul,
and by the end of the year, branches had opened in Har Nof
and Ramot. The second year, ninety branches opened all around
Yerushalayim, Bnei Brak and other main chareidi centers.
Then in 5761/2001, Ovos Uvonim went international. In
5761/2001 the number of branches all over Eretz Yisroel
reached 254, and HaRav Nosson Tzvi Finkel, the rosh yeshiva
of Mir, sent Reb David Hershkowitz to America, where he
helped Rav Shlomo Zalman Unsdorfer start over 100 branches
there. By this time, there were ten in England and a few in
Belgium and Australia as well.
This year's around 1,200 branches worldwide include
Marseilles, Montreal, Vienna, Venezuela, and even a few in
Tel Aviv.
The secret of the program is the way it taps deep into the
hidden power of Klal Yisroel. Children tired of
wandering around underfoot on Friday begin nagging to be
taken to shul. The combined appeal of Torah, an hour
of undivided paternal attention and a bag of chips is
irresistible. And given the choice of doing one more errand
or appeasing their insistent kids, fathers are not unwilling
to let the kids have the day. Our desire to do right is so
strong that this minuscule incentive is all that is needed to
overwhelm the monstrous yetzer hora that was holding
everyone back all along.
It would be worth every tourist's while to put an Ovos Uvonim
stop on his agenda. The image of shuls around Eretz
Yisroel on Friday afternoons nowadays is truly a taste of
Moshiach's tzeiten. Bottei medrash are packed wall-to-
wall with fathers and sons, with yeshiva bochurim and
their younger brothers, with adult chavrusos -- all
cashing in on the intense, unique temimusdik
atmosphere of children learning, with whole communities
united in bringing Shabbos in through Torah. The atmosphere
can be described, but the truth is, it deserves to be
joined.
In Spite of the Naysayers
After Ovos Uvonim, Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik was the next
logical step.
Perhaps the original model was formed in Lakewood, where
there had been a Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik made up only of
children for many years already.
The name was now adopted and the style changed to that of
Ovos Uvonim -- where fathers and sons come together to learn.
This idea, too, originated in Gateshead, where it was
proposed in 5754/1994, by HaRav Mattisyahu Salomon, the
renowned mashgiach, then of Gateshead, now of
Lakewood.
He wanted to see people learning on Purim and recommended the
Ovos Uvonim model - - giving prizes to the children if their
fathers come -- as the approach most likely to encourage men
to learn. Since then, Purim has become synonymous with
learning, in Gateshead, where the only place large enough to
hold Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik has been the main beis
medrash of the Gateshead Yeshiva. But as with the weekly
program, the real learning explosion happened in Eretz
Yisroel.
HaRav Naftoli Falk, a native of Gateshead, had been running
the Ezras Torah Ovos Uvonim for a few months when he started
thinking of the yearly Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik back
home. Having innovated the Friday afternoon program with
startling success, he was determined to bring in dozens of
fathers and sons on Purim, too. Obviously, the prizes would
have to be impressive enough to overcome the many enticements
of the day, and the program would have to be touted long and
loud enough for everyone to know about it and want to
join.
Sparing no expense and despite the short notice, he
optimistically bought two hundred calculator watches, put up
posters, and by Purim afternoon discovered that Am Yisroel
was more special than he had imagined. Two hundred extra
watches were quickly bought and distributed by the end of the
week.
For its second year, the program went national. Graphic
artists prepared professional posters, organizers were
drafted to make arrangements in all the Ovos Uvonim branches
in the country, and 15,000 desk shtenders were ordered
from China at $2.50 apiece. The size of the undertaking was
unheard of. Word got out and the excitement started to build.
Kids everywhere were talking about the upcoming Yeshivas
Mordechai Hatzaddik, about the containerful of shtenders
that had arrived at the dock, about whether they would
wear their costumes to shul when they came to learn,
about whether their little brothers were old enough to come --
in short, fathers had no choice but to make the time, because
otherwise their children's Purim would be ruined.
And somehow, the time was found. Between mishloach manos
and hosting dancing bochurim, at 1:40 everything
stopped, and the streets around Yerushalayim were suddenly
filled with throngs of fathers and sons streaming to all the
shuls in every neighborhood. By 1:50 the only sounds
were bubbling pots in the homes and the roar of Torah in the
shuls, as thousands upon thousands filled up the
botei medrash with the kol Yaakov that had been
so sorely missed on Purims past.
The idea caught on like wildfire as every circle of Yidden
embraced the idea as its own. From the various communities in
Eretz Yisroel the idea went global and then there was no
stopping the overflow. Last year's countries of Yeshivas
Mordechai Hatzaddik included: Australia, South Africa,
France, Switzerland, Belgium, and all over North and South
America from Montreal, Toronto, Denver, and Chicago to Sao
Paulo.
And in every shul, in every beis medrash, it
began with a local member taking the initiative and
organizing a program of its own.
Yet people who haven't seen it think it can't be done.
Rav Efraim Zelaznik of Yerushalayim always thought it was
impossible to learn on Purim. That was until the levaya
of HaRav Moshe Feinstein, almost two decades ago. That
Purim, all of Klal Yisroel took off two hours to pay
their last respects to the godol hador. They all found
time; Purim suffered not a whit. Ever since, Rav Zelaznik has
been learning on Purim.
As Purim nears and leaflets are distributed, the excitement
in the air gathers momentum. Boys surround their menahalim
and eagerly read the pamphlets and the upcoming top-
secret prize is the question on everyone's lips.
For the upcoming year, 55,000 prizes have been ordered from
Shanghai for distribution in Eretz Yisroel alone.
A Source of Blessing
As people have found, running or sponsoring a beis medrash
is a source of blessing: the more people who have helped,
the more yeshuos that have resulted. This is
particularly true for Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik. Rav Aryeh
Finkel, who guides the organization in every detail,
instructed the Purim committee not to look for corporate
funding but rather to "let private people get the zchus."
Purim is the day when kol haposheit yad, nosnim
lo, and he felt that individuals would want the
zechuyos. In fact, there are people who won't let go
of them.
A Boyaner chossid's two-year-old daughter was hit by a van
and suffered such serious skull fractures and liver damage
that the doctors only shook their heads as they took her into
surgery. The case was hopeless by all natural experience, but
the father wouldn't give up. He started searching for
zechuyos and came up with Ovos Uvonim.
On the spot, the father made a neder to begin an Ovos
Uvonim program in Boyan, which did not yet have one, and
before the day was out, he called the committee to ask what
he could do for Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik. Two weeks later
he brought home a completely healthy child, leaving the
doctors befuddled in the hospital. A few months later, he set
up his third Ovos Uvonim branch in Boyan.
On Purim last year, Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik in
Rachmastrivke on Givat Moshe was in full swing. But one of
the regular organizers, a yungerman who had so far had
a childless marriage for seven years, was missing. He had
been helping out annually and for Purim 5752 had given a
large donation to Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik.
A call to Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik down the road in Ezras
Torah's Beis Yisroel shul confirmed that he wasn't
there either. Just as the hour of learning came to a close,
Reb S. H. Greenwald came bursting into the Beis Yisroel Shul,
having run from Rachmastrivke with the thrilling news. Our
missing friend and benefactor had just become, Boruch
Hashem, the father of twin boys!
A thirty-four year old girl in Bnei Brak who had not had a
shidduch suggested for a whole year, asked to donate
last year for a Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik. By the time the
administrator wrote to us after Purim to report on the
turnout and results in his beis medrash, he included
the besurah that the donor was engaged!
The yeshuos are indicative of Heaven smiling down on
us in nachas ruach.
This has been true on a communal scale as well.
HaRav Aharon Leib Steinman has said that he feels strongly
that the zchus of the tinokos shel beis Rabban
learning on Purim was directly responsible for thwarting the
bombing that was planned in Meah Shearim three years ago. It
was a 60-kilogram, 132-pound behemoth, larger than anything
attempted before or since, and would have seriously damaged
buildings all around, not to mention what it could have done
to the people, had it gone off, Rachmono litzlan.
Instead, it was discovered and defused without anyone being
hurt.
During the very hour of learning in Emanuel on Purim, a
terrorist on the way to commit a suicide bombing was caught
in that same town.
However, the fax that arrived to Ovos Uvonim in Yerushalayim
from a branch in Haifa two years ago (publicized last year)
is perhaps the most startling.
Haifa was in the throes of an uproar over its ness Purim
that it had experienced. Two terrorists about to carry
out shooting attacks were caught in the city center. The
newspapers that trumpeted reports of the miracle were not
informed of the details that we at Ovos Uvonim received.
Wrote HaRav Yehuda Englard of Beis Haknesses Mekor Boruch,
Haifa:
"The first terrorist was caught during the hour of Ovos
Uvonim in the Tiferes Yisroel shul and the second one
when the branch at Ramat Vishnitz was learning."
It was clear that the Kol Yaakov of innocent children
and their fathers had thwarted our enemies' plans.
Sons Without Their Fathers
Purim 5752. In the Meor Chaim shul of Sanhedria
Murchevet, Yerushalayim, an Ovos Uvonim organizer watched
with satisfaction as smiling boys and their fathers started
streaming towards the benches after Mincha was over,
ready for Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik. Suddenly, he noticed
a boy with a tear- streaked face making his way to the door,
trying to exit the shul as fast as possible without
being noticed. With a jolt, he recognized Chaim, who had lost
his father, R"l, that past winter.
The rules promised prizes for boys accompanied by their
fathers. How could Chaim be allowed to lose out, only further
deepening his pain? So surrogate fathers were set up as
chavrusas for all those who don't have fathers to come
with them: orphans, sons of fathers who are ill and boys from
broken homes.
Thirty avreichim were sent in to the renowned
Blumenthal Orphanage in Yerushalayim. This one hour of
learning gave each boy a new relationship with a `father' he
could call his own. The following year a woman visitor to the
orphanage gave a large donation to Yeshivas Mordechai
Hatzaddik after hearing one boy counting the days to Purim,
". . . because I can't wait to feel the warmth of Yeshivas
Mordechai Hatzaddik again!"
Through Ovos Uvonim and Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik, these
desolate souls have formed strong relationships they would
otherwise never have had. One boy has become close to his
uncle, another to his grandfather and a third to a warm
volunteer.
Bringing Families Together
But Ovos Uvonim and Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik have worked
even more powerful miracles of the covert kind.
A moshavnik's son wanted to attend Yeshivas Mordechai
Hatzaddik, but his father doesn't know how to learn anything
-- not even Chumash. Children are very creative and
can be incredibly persistent when they know what they want.
This boy had been studying at a religious school, and he
wanted to learn on Purim more than anything.
Last Purim, he and his father joined Yeshivas Mordechai
Hatzaddik, and the boy taught his father Chumash!
These stories capture the spiritual essence of Ovos Uvonim.
Not only does the program inspire Torah study during hours
when it is usually missing, but even more important, it
strengthens the bonds between parents and children that are
so sorely strained in our times.
The principal of a cheder in Yerushalayim has said
that before Ovos Uvonim hardly two-fifths of the parents knew
what their children were learning, let alone how well the
boys were doing. Now 90 percent are involved, revolutionizing
the relationship between parents, children, teachers and
principals. By following their children's progress, parents
see the effort and skill the cheder rebbes are
investing, and there is much greater respect all around.
Today's society has become so vast and diverse that the
individual becomes lost. Youth are losing touch with their
roots as the byword is to move forward and spread their
wings. Ovos Uvonim and Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik are
bringing us back to kehilloh life, back to a warm,
pulsating beis medrash, where the hearts of young and
old beat to the same tune.
To Join the Children
Although it has a Vaad HaRabbonim that it constantly
consults, Ovos Uvonim has no rabbinical letters of
recommendation. The organization doesn't need them, because
the rebbes and rabbonim attend in person.
HaRav Moshe Schloss, a talmid chochom formerly of
England, comes to Ovos Uvonim every week even though his
grandchildren are too old for him to learn with them in the
program. He says he comes for the same reason that the
Manchester Rosh Yeshiva asked to be buried in the children's
chelka. The kedusha of little children is
especially great, and learning with them has the power to
work yeshuos and bring one's tefillos and
zechuyos up to Heaven.
HaRav Mattisyahu Salomon wrote in a letter to Ovos Uvonim
that he envies the zchus of these children. For the
upcoming year, the Mashgiach plans to sit on the beis
medrash bench with the children "and together nimtzo
chein be'einei HaMelech!"
Anyone who has attended knows the incredible sight of so many
pure children coming to learn -- running and jumping and
dancing to learn -- hand-in-hand with their fathers, in their
costumes and masks, or just with wide Purim smiles.
But then everyone settles down and the atmosphere becomes
absolutely charged with the true geshmack of learning.
Fathers are imbued with the intense pleasure of teaching
Torah to their sons, and sons are ecstatic over the
opportunity for personal attention and precious learning with
their fathers.
By the time the hour is over, the prize has become completely
secondary. No one is rushing to go home.
Some branches have even added one minute of learning at the
end of the hour to be purely lishmoh, not for the
prize. Others have added a few chapters of Tehillim as
a closing note.
The experience is electrifying and unforgettable. As one
person observed, "I saw more heartfelt tears being shed
during the Tehillim at the end of Yeshivas Mordechai
Hatzaddik, than at Ne'iloh on Yom Kippur. And what's
more, while the latter are indicative of our fear of G-d, the
former are surely tears of pure ahavas Hashem!"
Never seen it? Sounds too far away? Your local beis
medrash could be the next to merit hosting a Yeshivas
Mordechai Hatzaddik, if only you'll take the initiative to
start it.
On Purim of 5764/2004, all over the world they will be
learning. Will you be part of it?
To contact Yeshivas Mordechai Hatzaddik: Address: 19 Ezrat
Torah St.; Jerusalem 95320 Israel; Tel: ++972-2-5387547; Fax:
++972-2-5003406; Mobile: ++972-58- 605373; email:
falknm@013.nei.il
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