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by Rosally Saltsman

"Angels on wheels... angels with messages..."

Helen Keller is known to have recommended that everyone experience being blind and deaf for just one day. Judaism includes many halochos that involve showing special consideration to people who are vulnerable or disadvantaged, whether physically, financially or by virtue of their circumstances in life. These laws are meant to improve our middos by generating increased empathy and sensitivity as well as appreciation for our own positive circumstances in life. Even poor people are meant to give tzedoka.

I decided to stage an empathy lesson recently. I blindfolded my son and told him to make his way to the bathroom and brush his teeth. Then I told him to remove the blindfold, mouthed a message to him and asked him to try and read my lips. I asked him to listen to the sounds of the house that he never notices but unconsciously registers. I had him `sign' a message to me (he had learned the sign alphabet somewhere). I then gave him a cup of chocolate milk and had him drink it while holding his nose. Finally, we both tried to write "I love you" holding a marker between our toes and with our mouths.

Although my son treated the whole thing like a game, he did get the underlying message and he asked pertinant questions later. It made us more aware of the special challenges which many individuals face and appreciate the senses we often take for granted, the senses that we're meant to use to appreciate Hashem's magnificent handiwork. How often do we say "pokeiach ivrim, zokef kefufim" or "hameichin mitzadei gever" with the proper kavona?

People who are most sensitive to others who are in some way challenged, usually have some experience with someone close to them who is in a similar position. It's natural to display more sensitivity towards a situation with which we have first hand knowledge, but we can develop that sensitivity without G-d forbid having to experience it first hand.

Mothers wheeling baby carriages and trying to maneuver them around cars parked on sidewalks or piles of garbage, or being unable to get up a flight of stairs, are able to empathize with the difficulties faced by someone in a wheelchair who encounters the same obstacles every day. Similarly, a father trying to childproof his home by crawling around on all fours to get a baby-eye view of the domicile can understand the concept of making an area obstacle-free for a blind person. So can we sensitize ourselves and our children to the hardships faced by those who have some kind of limiting condition while at the same time appreciating the deceptively simple functions our bodies perform for us every day. We can also admire the creative coping strategies that have been developed for and by people with disabilities.

While we need to understand the special needs of these people, we need also to admire and learn from the resilience and determination of people who have no use of their hands yet become painters, people who have no use of their legs yet become athletes, people who cannot hear but become musicians.

I saw a man on his way to shul not long ago in a wheelchair, completely covered with a talis. He looked like an angel on wheels. Many of these people are angels with messages that the soul can be whole even if the body is not and we are more than our limitations. We, too, can become angels when we offer empathy and encouragement and try to see things from another's perspective.

One of the reasons there are people with physical and mental disabilities is to teach us compassion and give us the opportunity to show kindness and understanding. And if we go out of our way to offer consideration and understanding, we may also discover that we have a lot to learn not only about but from these unique individuals.

 

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