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Teaching Love of Torah to Children
-- An Essay Leading up to Mattan Torah

by Tzvia Ehrlich-Klein

Part III

We previously discussed how to focus our thoughts on Torah ideas and Torah - orientation, like chessed. On having short, interesting Torah insights "that can be said on the go."

A perfect antidote for idle gossip, to say nothing of malicious speech!

Recap: 1) Work at trying to always connect what is happening to you and to others to thoughts about Torah, good middos and Hashem.

2. Show love of Torah

* Smiling when hearing a Torah thought and, of course, showing that you are paying attention, teaches a love of Torah.

* A woman who attends shul for the Torah reading, even if she cannot be there for the majority of the davening, demonstrates a much deeper love for Torah than if she sends the children off to shul alone so that she can spend another half hour in bed. It also strengthens the other participants' appreciation of shul and Torah: it's depressing and demeaning to the Torah for only two or three women to be in the women's section (imagine if you brought in a guest that week). Of course, paying attention and not speaking or handing out oif ruf peklach during the Torah reading is mandatory.

* When a child returns from school, while hearing about his day, ask extra questions about the Torah topics that were studied. And be sure to show even more interest for them than for the secular or non-Torah subjects.

If interest is shown in the child's discussion of what Moishele or Miri said to the child or what the teacher said or did to Yankele, but not equal or even more interest in what was learned in parsha or novi, unfortunate priorities are demonstrated. During a lull in Torah talk at the table, mention the great Torah thought that your Yaakov or Yehudis learned in school/gan that week. If the child won't tell it over, you start, but keep prompting him to finish, or ask, "Am I getting this right?"

* Get up from your chair or stop whatever you were doing and go over and kiss or hug your child when they tell you a piece of Torah. And, verbally, tell them how happy it makes you to hear them talking Torah -- whether you have already heard the Torah thought or not. Remember that hearing a dvar Torah one hundred times is not at all like hearing it 101 times! Try not to answer the phone while a child is speaking in Torah. If you must, immediately tell the caller that the child is saying a dvar Torah and you will call them back later. And hang up fast!

* Don't be lazy at the expense of Torah. If a child needs a sefer or a notebook to get his limudei kodesh homework right, make that extra effort to get up and find it for him/her, even though we all know that children were really `invented' to bring us things... When giving the sefer to the child -- with a kiss or a smile to show approval -- mention that it makes you happy to do this for the sake of Torah. Also -- volunteer extra information and look it up in a sefer to enrich their knowledge.

* Try to have Torah tapes playing when the children are coming home. Let them see and hear that you enjoy spending time listening to Torah when you are at home. Do remember to close it when they come in so that you can talk with them.

[Ed. SEFIRA time is the perfect time to join a Torah tape lending library. They are listed in most chareidi directories. There are separate ones for children with Torah stories and messages. And if there isn't one in your vicinity -- why not start one yourself? You'd be surprised how many people would gladly donate the price of one or several tapes (make that the membership fee)!]

To be continued...

 

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