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Home and Family
A Shabbos Match
by Sheila Seigel

Baila Feinberg and Ruchy Braun decided that they wanted a `different' Shabbos experience. The two friends had been studying in seminary in Eretz Yisroel for two years and had exhausted their respective supply of relatives.

"I've got a terrific idea," Ruchy exclaimed suddenly. "Let's go to the Old City and get set up with a family. I heard that there's an organization that places people for meals in the Jewish Quarter and in Meah Shearim." Intrigued, Baila agreed and the two friends made up to try it that coming week.

Friday night at the Kosel, the air humming with sound. Heartfelt prayers, bitter tears, snatches of childish laughter, an infant crying. The large plaza near the Kosel was teeming with tourists, strolling in the warm summer night, gawking at the chassidim in their Shabbos shtreimlach.

A large group of people had formed at the back of the plaza where a short man with wide smile greeted them. Comprised mostly of American college students, there were also a few Israelis among the crowd. Ruchy and Baila awkwardly sidled over to the group, feeling out of place as the only two obviously religious girls.

"Um, I hope it's okay, but my friend and I wanted to get set up with a family for the meal tonight," Baila said shyly to the man in charge.

"No problem. Just wait till the end, after I've placed everyone else. If I've still got a family left, I'll be happy to help you out." The man turned his attention back to the group. Swiftly he paired them up, shouting out names from a wad of index cards he clutched in his hand.

"The two of you who are going to the Weiss family, please stand over here. The Kaufmans will take three. Is there a group of three? Does anyone speak Hebrew? There's a wonderful Israeli family that is happy to have guests." In a short time, the crowd had thinned to a handful. Baila and Ruchy watched the scene in rapt amazement. Young Jews, who appeared completely irreligious, were eagerly marching off to Meah Shearim to experience a Shabbos meal, probably their first. Girls, dressed in jeans and tee shirts, were cheerfully accepting shawls and scarves to drape around their shoulders and donning makeshift skirts to cover their pants.

"Okay, girls. I haven't forgotten about you," the short man said reassuringly, nodding in their direction. He scanned his index cards. "Perfect. I've got just the family for you. Their name is Wolf. You'll have a great time." Carefully committing the address to memory, the two girls began their twenty minute walk to their hosts.

"Good Shabbos. Welcome," boomed Rabbi Wolf, a large man with intelligent brown eyes and a full, reddish beard. "Yosef sent you?" He seemed puzzled by their obviously chareidi appearance, yet ushered them graciously into his home. A young woman appeared carrying a chubby baby.

"You're from the Wall?" she asked uncertainly. Grinning sheepishly, the girls explained the impulse that had motivated them to seek out an interesting Shabbos experience. With a hearty laugh, Rabbi Wolf motioned them to sit at the dining room table. The girls relaxed and looked around the room. Pictures of gedolim adorned the otherwise bare walls. The bookshelves were sagging under the weight of the heavy volumes piled on them. The furniture was sparse and cheap looking, yet the girls sensed a feeling of comfort and warmth in the air that had little to do with the furnishings.

"Ah, Yaakov, sit down. Our guests from the Kosel have arrived," Rabbi Wolf announced genially, as the yeshiva bochur took his place next to his host. The men launched into a spirited Shalom Aleichem while Mrs. Wolf dandled the baby on her lap, carefully removing any breakables from his exploring fingers.

"We don't use running water or electricity on Shabbos," Mrs. Wolf explained, as the two girls followed her into the kitchen, eager to help serve. An enormous barrel of water stood in the corner, dwarfing the already tiny kitchen. The girls were impressed with how simple she made it sound. It certainly couldn't have been an easy task to dip into a wooden barrel for every cup of water needed. Chatting together amaibly, the girls felt an instant bond of friendship with this gentle, soft spoken woman. The meal passed quickly and soon it was time for Ruchy and Baila to start their walk home. Mrs. Wolf thanked them profusely for all of their help and they said their goodbyes to the jovial Rabbi Wolf.

"Good Shabbos, girls, You're welcome back any time," he said kindly.

*

"Zelig, I'd like to speak to you for a few moments," requested Rabbi Klein, the Rosh Yeshiva. When the two were seated comfortably in the office, Rabbi Klein removed his heavy horn-rimmed glasses and peered intently at Zelig.

"You're twenty-two now, aren't you?" the Rosh Yeshiva probed gently. "You've been with us here in the yeshiva for almost five years, is that right?" Zelig Keller stammered an affirmative reply, wondering where this questioning was leading. He didn't have long to wait before his curiosity was satisfied.

"A shidduch has been suggested for you, Zelig. A young lady who has been learning in seminary here in Yerusholayim for two years. Her name is Rochel Braun." Rabbi Klein continued speaking for a few more minutes, but Zelig was in a daze. Was he ready for marriage? His Rosh Yeshiva certainly seemed to think so, because he was already on the phone to an old student of his who had proposed the match.

"Hello, Reb Chaim. Yes, I've just spoken to him. He's interested in meeting Rochel. How about Tuesday evening at 8:30?" Rabbi Klein smiled reassuringly at Zelig, a paternal friendliness warming his face.

Zelig stumbled back to his dorm room, confused and more than a little excited. He bumped into Yaakov Greenbaum, his roommate, who was just leaving the room.

"Hi, Zelig. What's up? You look mighty pleased with yourself this morning." Yaakov observed good naturedly. Zelig rapidly confided his conversation with the Rosh Yeshiva while Yaakov's eyes grew wider and wider.

"Are you sure he said Rochel Braun?" Yaakov asked incredulously. Zelig nodded emphatically, sure at least of some of his facts.

"You're not going to believe this, but that's one of the girls who was at Chaim Wolf's house on Shabbos a few months ago. You know how Chaim often has guests that are sent to him by Reb Nosson from the Kosel. One Shabbos when I was there, these two frum girls showed up. Don't you remember, Zelig? I told you how impressed I was with how refined, modest and helpful they were throughout the meal." Zelig and Yaakov looked at each other in astonishment.

*

The Keller home was always full of a fascinating assortment of guests from all walks of life. It was particularly on Shabbos and Yom Tov that the house would hum with a joyous buzz of sound emanating from the variety of guests that Zelig would invite, many of them newcomers to Yiddishkeit from "off the Wall."

"Zelig, can I ask you a question?" asked Todd, a Canadian backpacker that Zelig had befriended. "Why is it that you and your wife are so eager to have guests all the time? Especially people like me who are ignorant of their Jewish heritage!"

Zelig grinned broadly, hazel eyes twinkling. He leaned back in his massive armchair, surveying the long dining room table. His wife, Ruchy, and several of the other guests, were serving the fish course. There was a hush in the room as Zelig considered his answer.

"Ruchy and I owe a personal debt of gratitude to the people that work in Kiruv at the Kosel, and also to the families that host young men and women that are searching for answers. Soon after we got married, we decided that we, too, wanted to play our part in offering Shabbos hospitality to these young people. After a few months, we got hooked! We've enjoyed having so many different kinds of people pass through our home and enrich our lives over the years."

"What kind of debt do you mean?" wondered Aliza, a frequent guest at the Kellers. Zelig and Ruchy exchanged a meaningful glance. Ruchy nodded almost imperceptibly. "Okay, you can tell them," she agreed, smiling. Their curiosity piqued, everyone waited expectantly as Zelig took a sip of water, relishing his role as storyteller.

"It all began when Ruchy and her friend Baila decided that they wanted to have an unusual Shabbos experience," said Zelig dramatically. "They decided to get set up at the Wall..."

 

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