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ADD and Self Esteem
by Rabbi S. Kory

One of the most formidable challenges in education today is ADD. What is ADD, how is it affecting the educational process, and what can be done about it? These questions are particularly relevant to us since Israel and the United States are two of the countries where this condition is most widespread.

What is ADD?

Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) is a condition that is characterized by inattentiveness, impulsiveness and hyperactivity. One of the most interesting explanations of why the ADD person exhibits these symptoms is that the ADD mind is an understimulated mind. The various symptoms are the mind's effort to stimulate itself. With the needed stimulation, the mind is stabilized and the person can function more "normally." This explains the paradox that Ritalin and other stimulant drugs can be very effective in calming down many people with ADD.

Here is a short description of what you might expect to find in persons with ADD: Any little noise or movement distracts them. They listen poorly when you are talking to them, and can't seem to follow instructions. Rather, they wait for you to finish talking so they can blurt out what they want to say. They may suddenly and spontaneously behave in a socially unacceptable way. They tend to procrastinate and they love high risk activity. They have a difficult time being organized and prefer doing things differently each time. They have a much higher percentage for all kinds of addictions, from substance abuse to video games. They may fidget or hum to themselves or insist on listening to music when they are studying or working.

Why? Because their minds crave stimulation and these things are stimulating.

Many people with ADD learn to control their symptoms. Sometimes, this is good news. Other times, however, the person suppresses a symptom because someone forces him to. Children are especially vulnerable to this. For example, a student holds on to his desk because his teacher relentlessly reprimands him for fidgeting. There is a risk that suppressing the symptom in this way can lead to other disorders such as anxiety and depression.

The Other Side of ADD

This brief introduction is only one side of the story. It is very unfortunate that the positive side of ADD is often overlooked or played down. This is probably because ADDers can be inconvenient to have around. Their neurology does not fit into what modern society has decided is "correct."

I think that it is very important to present the positive side to the person who is struggling with ADD -- both to the person who has it as well as the teacher, parent, employer etc. who has to contend with it. The ADDer will function much better if he does not relate to himself as handicapped, inferior, learning disabled, dysfunctional or different than the rest of society. These lables can wipe out his self esteem. And a healthy self esteem is essential to realizing potential. Instead, let him know the advantages of being ADD.

Inform him that many people have ADD and are very successful in what they do. When they are really into something, ADDers can get intensely involved and become tremendous achievers. I heard of a book authored by a CEO in the United States who claims that he never met a CEO without ADD.

A research project conducted by Washington University concludes that ADDers outperform non-ADDers in crisis situations. Think for a minute how distractibility and impulsiveness could be tremendous assets in crisis situations.

Distractibility makes the person more alert to all of the stimuli in the environment. On the contrary, the non- ADDer will be more focused on what he is doing and might not pick up the warning signal.

Impulsiveness will help the ADDer to act immediately in the crisis situation whereas the person without ADD may not react until it is too late.

One researcher describes the ADD mind as "one step below genius." This is because the ADD mind is extraordinarily active. The most significant difference is that the ADDer has trouble controlling his mind and directing his thoughts. But there are ways to assist him to do this and thereby harness his potential.

What about the lack of organization of the ADD mind? Constantly trying novel methods, looking at things from new angles, doing things in a non- standard way -- this is where creativity is born.

The Technology Culture

Having briefly discussed the two sides of ADD, let us now talk about the effects of the cultures in which we live on our thinking processes. Most of us realize how the content of the media in modern Western cultures can affect us, but we may not be as aware of how the thinking processes of these cultures may be affecting us.

The natural environment has plenty of stimulation. There are fascinating things to see, hear, feel, smell and taste. Modern technology also has provided us with its own stimulations. However, there are very significant differences in the two types of stimulation. First of all, modern technology overloads us with stimulation. Everything has to be super- bright, super-loud, super- kinesthetic, super-fast, and super-dramatic.

Take our music, for example. A typical tape or CD will start off with a very fast song that lasts a few minutes. The next song is totally unrelated to the first one and is usually a very slow song. No gradual changes; the person is stimulated in one extreme and then suddenly stimulated in the other extreme. Every few minutes, something new and different. The "pleasure" comes from the change in feeling you get by vacillating between two extremes.

Compare this to Classical music, where one symphony can last for a half- hour or more, and where the different themes seem to flow into each other. This is much more similar to the stimulation found in nature: the day changes to night gradually and subtly.

Another characteristic of modern technology is interruptions. Programs are interrupted every few minutes for commercial announcements which themselves are interruptions of the previous commercial. Even our own newspapers will have several stories on one page as well as advertisements. It is the rare indivdual who reads one story from start to finish without glancing back and forth at the other stories and advertisements. Our lifestyles are filled with many other interruptions as well. These interruptions blend confusion with overstimulation and cannot be conducive to our being focused on a subject and to sustained attention. And these are preconditions for learning.

Are we inadvertently formatting our minds to shorter and shorter attention spans and to needing this never-ending variety? Even if we insulate ourselves from some of the noxious content of modern culture, we are exposed to and influenced by its process of thinking.

Let us recall that we described the ADD mind as an understimulated mind. Could we not postulate that our environment is exacerbating the very conditions we described that characterize the ADD mind -- distractibility, impulsiveness, hyperactivity? Are we producing minds that are so overstimulated by the environment that they cannot function properly in school, work, and other everyday situations where this level of stimulation is not found?

What Can Be Done

Here are ten simple ideas that can ameliorate the situation where the ADDer is not functioning well. They may also help to prevent some of the ADD symptoms from developing. For many ADD people, one or more of these may be all they need.

1. Create a more stimulating environment, inviting participation. One way of doing this is through more discussion and less lecturing. Another way is to give them projects to do -- as much as possible in their own way and at their own pace.

2. Work out a way to allow them more freedom of movement as long as it does not disturb everyone else. I personally know a teacher who told a student to use the back of the classroom to walk about when he could not sit any more. The boy did not have to ask permission but could simply get up out of his seat and go to the back of the room. The rest of the class was informed about the reason why and were told not to turn around. The boy absorbed the learning very well and as a result of the boy's not disturbing, the class functioned better, too.

3. Let them do things their own way. Take procrastination, for example. Don't try to coerce the ADDer to be more organized and finish projects ahead of the deadline. If he is getting his work done, let him be. If not, give him ideas of how to procrastinate effectively. Talk to some expert procrastinators and find out tips on how to procrastinate well.

4. Instead of taking away hope, give them a positive self image. This includes everything we said above.

5. Concerning boys who have trouble in classroom-style learning: Some boys who are veritable `monsters' (excuse the term) in younger grades completely change when they reach yeshiva. My theory is that in school they sit still in classrooms which is understimulating. The learning is presented in an orderly fashion and they may be expected to do homework assignments in an organized way.

However, yeshiva learning is different. One can stand up and walk around. Speaking out loud is encouraged. There is much more freedom in the pace of the learning and what to learn, and this is more aligned to the way ADD people function. Give these boys something to look forward to: encourage them by describing how yeshiva learning is much different.

6. There is the well-known story of the Brisker Rav sending his son out on an errand and giving him a question to ponder. When the son returned, he would discuss it with him. This way he taught the boy to continue to think in learning even during disturbing conditions. Realizing that we live in a society of distractions and interruptions and preparing ourselves to maintain a train of thought in spite of it is an important resource to develop.

7. Equally important is to give people the opportunity to spend extended periods of time in surroundings which are relatively free of distractions and interruptions. It is essential that we naturally develop the ability to think in a focused way for sustained periods of time. For example: let children play and study without constant interruptions.

As innocent a device as a telephone can instill inattentiveness and impulsiveness in us. You're in the middle of a task and the phone rings. You drop everything to answer it. You might consider turning off the ringer for a period of time a few times a week. Experience what it is like to go through a task from start to finish without interruption. Bonus tip: this can also be an excellent way of reducing stress.

8. Use your imagination to train children how to act in a non-impulsive way. One simple technique is with food. When you are sitting down together to eat, give a young child the platter of something he likes and teach him to pass on to someone before he takes.

9. Aerobic exercise 5-7 times a day for 12 minutes each will have the same effect on the brain as Ritalin, according to Dr. John Ratey. This can help do away with Ritalin and other stimulant drugs that are often given to ADD people. It also explains why ADD people like to fidget and move around.

10. For many ADD people, time is a big issue. It can be more difficult for them to immediately respond to demands than it is for the average person. Try telling them that you need them to do something and then ask them when they could do it. Alternatively, you could mention that in a few minutes you are going to need them for something. Then wait 10 minutes and make your request. They will respond better when demands are made in these ways.

Above all, be non-coercive, gentle, patient, optimistic, consistent and persistent. There are many successful approaches to dealing with ADD. There are medicines and therapies. Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) has developed some very effective techniques.

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