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Facing Reality - Today I am a
Man?
Submitted by Avrohom Ellis, Beitar
Today I am on my way to perform [musically] at a bar mitzva.
This is no ordinary occasion, by any means, for the star of
the show is a student of mine. And this is no ordinary
student, for although today he becomes thirteen years old,
this precious child acts and looks [that is, his expression]
like a five-year-old. He is mentally handicapped.
Till now, I have never had to come to terms with Motty's real
age. I would come to his class every day and inspire him with
various musical activities to which he responded excitedly.
These are special, happy times for both of us.
Today, however, we are celebrating his chronological Bar
Mitzva. The music, of course, will have to fit the occasion.
And Motty's parents will be present.
Today we must all go through a lesson in reality. What am I
to say to Motty's parents? Aside from the standard "Mazel
Tov," I believe that there are no real words to be conveyed.
How can mere words be put to use for something that we must
face up to and accept, although we may not understand... This
is a reality which we must use to strengthen our love and
faith in the Ribono Shel Olam. Thus, simply conveying
this to them with my presence and support -- without too many
words -- would be best. The language of the eyes and the
heart. And a fervent handclasp which speaks more than
words.
I don't believe that one can remain neutral when forced with
such difficult truths. Either one works to be connected more
closely to Hashem or, G-d forbid, the reverse can occur. My
feelings on this occasion tell me that all of us who will be
present will be going through a `bar mitzva,' a coming of
age, a maturing in faith and acceptance that there is meaning
to whatever happens in life -- good or so-called bad. Motty,
we rejoice with you today because we accept you,
regardless of whether we understand you -- about you -- or
not.
Tomorrow I will come to Motty's class and continue with our
activities. Motty will probably be the same happy child-man
he always was and we're going to have a great time together.
As for myself, I hope to be a stronger ma'amin.
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