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Home and Family

The Coat Conundrum
by R. Chadshai

The taxi honked downstairs, near the entrance to the building. Chani's parents, dressed-up, had already gone down and Chani was still hesitating at home. Ima called her on her cell phone, "Chani, where are you?" she asked impatiently. "The taxi's waiting."

"But, Ima . . . I can't find my coat . . . the new coat that Savta bought me last year . . . "

"Well, where can it be?" Ima asked, on edge.

"I have no idea. I've looked everywhere and there's no trace of my Shabbos coat."

"So take your weekday coat in the meantime. The main thing is that you come downstairs already so we don't miss the chuppah!"

"But Ima, what do I tell Savta if I don't have the coat?"

"Let's hope she won't notice," her mother tried to calm her down.

Chani shrugged into her simple coat and hurried downstairs. When she arrived at the hall, she planned to take the coat off quickly and put it in the cloakroom before her grandmother could see what she was wearing.

*

It all began a year earlier. Chani had hinted to her parents that she didn't have a dressy coat and that she was using the same coat also for every day and also for Shabbos, for regular wear and for simchas. She needed a fancy coat, especially as there were already a few kallahs in her class and the wedding season was about to begin.

The timing wasn't great from the financial point of view of her parents. Her father was a avrech kollel whose meager stipend was barely enough to live on; her mother was working intermittently part-time, and Chani's pressing dental work had taken their last penny. For now, they had no way to take on yet another expense of several hundred shekels.

Chani understood, of course, but the coat that she had seen when she had gone with a friend to a neighborhood sale, and had managed to try on, had entranced her with its beauty and fit her to a tee. She had animatedly described to her mother how the coat looked, knew the name of the factory where it was made, described the color, size and design and her mother heard and took note.

On Erev Succos, Chani's birthday, a notice came about a package in the mail. It turned out, that Chani's grandmother who lived abroad, sent her a coat very similar to the one she had seen. She had bought it cheaply at a factory abroad. Chani tried on the coat and discovered it to be practically perfect. It needed just a few tiny alterations for it to fit to her taste: She replaced the buttons, removed the belt and the belt rings and finally added a small decorative pin to the end of the collar. Her joy knew no bounds. She thanked her grandmother from the bottom of her heart, also her parents who had initiated the idea, and was proud of her elegant coat that earned her compliments from her friends at every special occasion.

*

As we said, a year passed, and fall once again arrived. Her cousin was getting married this evening and her grandmother had come especially from abroad for the occasion. The weather had gotten cooler; Chani had to take a coat and now she was in a quandary: What would she say when her grandmother wondered why she wasn't wearing the coat? She had gone to the trouble of buying and sending her a coat and her granddaughter apparently preferred wearing her weekday coat?

Chani removed her plain coat before even entering the hall, hung it deep in the cloakroom and went inside. Her grandmother was happy to see her and her prayer that her grandmother wouldn't ask about the coat seemed to have been answered. Soon she was overjoyed to see the rest of the girls in her family and her friends and over the course of the celebration, the coat was completely forgotten.

The wedding was over. Chani was holding her old coat folded in her arms and was about to leave the hall and join her parents going home. As she was leaving the hall, she stopped in her tracks. Before her stood Yael, a young woman who lived in her neighborhood with her little children, wearing a coat identical to the one that had disappeared. Chani was rendered speechless from astonishment and shock and she visibly paled.

"Is something wrong?" Yael asked worried when she saw Chani, who babysat for her on occasion, so frightened.

"N...no . . . I'm okay . . . it'll pass . . . " Yael raised an eyebrow and questioned, "so, everything alright? Are you sure?"

"What are you doing here?" Chani asked when she had recovered a bit, trying to hide her wave of emotions.

"I'm a distant relative of the chosson," Yael answered. "Although I did come late, I still wanted to wish them Mazal Tov. I hope someone's still there . . . I'd better hurry. See you!"

*

"You're still so upset about losing your coat?" her father asked.

"Not exactly . . . " Chani answered, "Now I'm upset because I found it . . . what I mean is, I saw it!" Her parents were now completely confused.

"Lost or found? If you saw it, why didn't you take it?" Chani tried to fight the tears that were threatening to escape and explained to him that she had seen Yael wearing her coat.

"You're obviously mistaken; the company makes many coats like that," her mother said.

"But the alterations that I made, the buttons I replaced, the belt I removed and the decorative pin I added to the collar . . . I'm positive!"

"Now don't tell me that you suspect that Yael stole . . . "

"I can't imagine Yael doing something like that, but I have no other solution for the mystery of how my coat got to her."

"We are required to give the benefit of the doubt; we have to simultaneously 'respect' and 'suspect'. We'll have look into the matter!" her father said.

"But how?"

"Ask her directly in a respectful way, as a matter of fact, and maybe she'll be able to enlighten us."

*

That same evening, late at night, Yael's phone rang. Yael who had just returned from the simchah understood that this must be an important call that couldn't wait.

"Yael? Good evening, its Mrs. Levi, your babysitter's mother!"

"How are you, Mrs. Levi? And how is Chani? It seemed to me that she didn't feel well this evening . . . When we met at the wedding she looked very pale."

"Oh, Boruch Hashem, it passed and everything's alright now. You know, Yael, I'm calling about something else, completely. I wanted to ask you about the coat, I mean my daughter really liked the coat you were wearing and I wanted to know where you bought it."

"I'm sorry but I don't think I'll be able to help you with this," Yael answered and Mrs. Levi's senses pricked.

"Why?" She asked trying to overcome her emotions.

"Because I . . . I didn't exactly buy it . . . "

"Which means???"

"Which means, I got it . . . "

"You mean to say, you received it as a gift?"

"Yes . . . sort of . . . you could say that," Yael answered clearly ill at ease. "But why do you ask?"

"Well. I don't feel comfortable asking but my daughter is looking for a coat exactly like that one, and I thought that I could get the details where I could get it," Mrs. Levi found a dignified way out.

"I'll tell you the truth. You know my husband learns and I don't work. Buying clothes for ourselves and our children is just not in the budget. I started going to a clothing gemach. At the beginning it was hard for me to get used to the idea, but my husband encouraged me and told me that the only thing a person has to be ashamed of is sin, and buying things at a gemach is not a sin. I go there and sometimes I find really good bargains that help me out a lot."

"Oh, don't feel uncomfortable, we also go there sometimes and we get away with a hoard of stuff that costs next to nothing!" Mrs. Levi encouraged her.

"Well, the last time I went there, I found this coat. At the beginning, I didn't believe my eyes, I thought I was dreaming; is it possible that someone would send a coat in such good condition, almost new, to a gemach? I asked Mrs. Schwartz, the woman in charge who volunteers, there and she told me that there are apparently people with means who every year want to renew their wardrobes and they send all of last season's clothes, whatever condition they're in. You know 'out with the old in with the new,' even though their old is almost new."

"I'm delighted to hear that you had such siyaata d'shmaya," responded Mrs. Levi, without Yael understanding what she meant exactly.

Mrs. Levi recognized the truth when she heard it and she knew that she could believe every word that Yael told her and that Chani's coat was taken from the gemach. But the question remained, how did it get there? It still wasn't clear who had brought it there without her permission.

*

When Chani heard the story, she put her head in her hands thoughtfully and tried to recall the facts. Only then did she remember what had happened and was surprised that she hadn't thought of it before: At the beginning of Nissan, last year, her mother had sent her to the gemach to deliver a bundle of clothes that the children had outgrown. It was cool out and as her everyday coat had been sent to be dry cleaned, she took the fancy one. Who would notice Erev Pesach? She entered the bomb shelter where the gemach was located, delivered the parcel and in the meantime ran into her friend who was also there looking for bargains. Her friend distracted her attention to some pairs of pants and children's shirts at an excellent price which could be good for her younger brothers.

She began looking through them but the place was stuffy and she was too hot so she took off her coat. After a while, she found what she was looking for and left together with her friend. On the way home, it was cool actually, but she was engrossed in conversation and didn't notice that the coat had been left behind.

Spring that had meanwhile sprung, made her forget about the coat and it remained in the gemach, but not for long. Quick enough, Yael discovered it, surprised at finding such a find and if not for the volunteer who had convinced her by saying: "This is what people throw away nowadays," she would have found it hard to believe.

All spring and summer, Chani didn't notice the coat missing because she hadn't needed it. Now that winter had arrived, she was reminded of it but it was already too late.

*

"If the hand of Providence arranged it so that the Yael got the coat in this remarkable way, it is a gift." That was the unanimous decision of the Levi family. The tension and heartache dissolved at once and when the doubts were lifted, so was the mood.

The balance sheet came out positive: Savta had given a coat she knew her granddaughter would enjoy, Chani was left without a fancy coat but she and her parents felt good that at least the mystery was solved. Also Yael felt wonderful about the great Hashgochoh Protis she was privy to, though she didn't know to what extent . . .

 

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