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You Get What You Are Meant to Have
a true story by C. Ofek

Leah went downstairs to her neighbor, Varda Rabinowitz, bearing a fresh apple cake, knowing that Mazel Tov wishes are always enhanced by a home-made offering. She heard muffled sounds of moving furniture, and in the backgorund, the mewling of a newborn baby. A tiny tot opened the door to her knock, and went to call Ima. As she waited, Leah was astounded to see various boxes littering the floor; everything was packed up.

"Oh, hello," said Varda, followed by five little ones in descending size. Cradling the baby, she dragged herself wearily to the door. "I appreciate your coming," she said with a forced smile, at the same time stifling a sigh.

"Mazel Tov for your new baby," said Leah, peeking at the child who looked as if she were about to cry any minute. As Varda complained that the baby cried all the time, Leah knew that a tired, overstrained mother was the reason.

"Have you any help?" she asked. "Are your young sisters coming at all?" Varda shook her head, saying that since her father was in the hospital, they were all busy with him. Leah glanced at the boxes strewn all over the place.

"You must be wondering what this is all about," Varda sounded upset. "The owner has asked us to leave immediately. The flat was sold to a young couple."

Leah was deeply troubled. "Why didn't you tell us? Why didn't you let the neighbors share your trouble and at least let us help you pack up?"

"It was all so sudden. He told us on Purim and finalized it on Pesach. We were busy and then there was the new baby. We thought he would give us a little longer because of our circumstances but we have to be out in exactly one week, two days before Lag B'omer."

"Where will you go?"

"We haven't found anything yet, and we haven't really got enough money to buy anything larger than a two-room flat, which is not really an option," said Varda gloomily. Leah couldn't find a single word to solve the dilemma, and putting on a cheerful face in front of the little ones, went back to her own flat, two flights up.

That evening, Varda dialed dozens of flats advertised in the papers. She asked for details but as soon as she said it was for eight people, she was rejected. Baby was screaming incessantly. Although it was already very late at night, her husband Chaim was out flat hunting, otherwise he would have held her for a while.

What could they do? Where would they go? Not to her parents, at the moment, and the in-laws were not alive any more. Her married siblings all lived in terribly crowded conditions and couldn't possibly take them in. As a drowning man clutches at straws, she repeated her husband's encouraging maxim, "He Who gives life, provides for our needs."

Two floors up, Leah was also still up. She was weighed down by the thought of her neighbor's predicament. Mechanically, she emptied her sons' trouser pockets as she loaded the washing machine. Amongst their treasures was a pink slip of paper with a tempting offer, "Metzia! Flat for Sale, immediate possession."

In the morning, she took it down to Varda where it joined the rest of the pile of "Flats for Sale" which had been ruled out for lack of funds. Varda's husband hopelessly sorted through the pile in the vain hope of something turning up. The pink slip caught his eye and when he found out some details, a sparkle returned to them. There seemed to be hope at the end of the tunnel.

Yosef and Devoral Carro, originally from France, had bought this flat for a song, and enlarged it into a beautiful five- room apartment. Devora was studying in Eretz Yisroel, when she had met Yosef, who was learning in yeshiva.

Her father, a well known businessman in France, had a soft spot for `learners.' He came from France before the wedding and invested a small fortune into this flat. Everything had to be the best. The furniture and fittings, tasteful decor and central air conditioning pleased the young couple and Yosef felt assured that he would be able to study with an untroubled mind.

The idyllic bliss lasted for two years. Devora was homesick for her family and friends in France. She had made friends when she was in seminary in Yerusholayim, but now she lived in Bnei Brak and had lost touch. She would have liked to teach, but felt inadequate because of the language. She felt as lonely as if she were on a desert island. She hid her misery when she phoned home and while her father was surprised at her choice, the mother thought she was great.

Month after month, the young woman struggled to overcome her loneliness. She had more than enough to live on in the exquisite flat. Besides the generous stipend, her father often sent them an extra bonus, yet she was slowly sliding into depression.

One ordinary, too ordinary, evening, as Devora was sitting despondently in the silent house, the phone rang. Her older sister, head of a Jewish school in France, told her of a vacancy at the school, which was just right for her. "If only you were here," she enthused, "the job would suit you perfectly."

Tears welled up in Devora's eyes. She was so lonely and frustrated; perhaps the time had come to go back home?

Yosef knew all about his young wife's problems. Each night when he returned from kollel, he saw her puffy tear-stained eyes. He realized only too well that she had not settled down yet. He agreed with her that they should go `home' for a while, espeically since she had a job waiting for her. Within a fortnight, they had packed their belongings and had booked their flight. "We'll be back within a few years," said Devora happily, as they locked the door on their lovely furniture and delightful flat.

Back in France, Devora put her heart and soul into her job. Yosef had also been offered a position in a yeshiva ketana, which gave him great satisfaction. He was a wonderful role model for the boys and people respected him immensely.

In the long summer vacation, Yosef went back alone to Eretz Yisroel for three weeks. He had been asked to give a series of lectures to a group of new immigrants from France. As the same time, he planned to sell the five room flat. He realized that they would not be coming back in the near future and property does not improve from standing empty. Besides which, he need a sizeable amount of money to publish some chiddushim he had written.

Yosef put his flat on the market the very first day of his arrival. The agents in Bnei Brak promised that such a wonderful flat would be snatched up within a week. A week went by and most of the second week. Yosef's lectures had gone very well, but the flat hung like a millstone round his neck.

"So sorry," apologized the agents. "In this area, people usually buy very cheap property and improve on it or enlarge it for their own purposes as time goes on. They don't want to invest more to start with."

"Maybe we should lower the asking price?" suggested Yosef as a last resort. He was due to go back in just one week. The dealers were appalled and scolded him for trying to sell such a valuable property in such a limited amount of time.

Yosef was determined to sell the flat at all costs, even at a loss. His father- in-law had warned him before he left that empty, neglected flats lose their value very quickly. In France, it would have been unheard of to stick little flyers with little tails bearing his telephone number on lamp posts. However, here it was the done thing and Yosef hastened to do it. The only serious call he had was from the Rabinowitzes.

"Let's talk," said Yosef as they fixed a time for viewing. Reb Chaim stood with his mouth agape when he saw the flat. "I could raise twenty kids here if only I had the money to pay for it," he thought. It was an unusual request, but Yosef had asked for ready cash, and he only had enough for a two-room flat.

"We've scrimped and saved and this is all we can put together."

Yosef wrinkled his brow and then said, "O.K. it's a deal. I need the money right now and am happy that the flat is going to a Ben Torah."

Chaim Rabinowitz was overwhelmed. He told his benefactor that they only had two days in which to leave their present address. "How are you going to manage to get yourselves organized in such a short time?" asked Yosef, looking round at the bare flat.

"The kids can sleep on the floor till we manage to furnish the rooms," beamed the happy new owner. The next day, when money and keys changed hands, the keys were accompanied by a present. A pair of folding beds for the children! Varda felt that truly, the one Above had made this deal for them.

He Who gives life, provides for our needs.

 

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