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by Gita Gordon

Serializing a new novel.

Chapter 18: The Next Meeting in Jerusalem (October 2001)

Esther and Daniel have met, and they are to meet again.

Esther faced the second meeting with a feeling of optimism. That was until her mother had insisted that she ask directly about Daniel's family. She didn't want there to be any feeling that she was interrogating him. The first meeting had been so relaxed, and the conversation had simply flowed along different subjects. She felt that when the time was right, Daniel would discuss his family. She felt it was wrong to force the conversation in that direction. However, her mother had been most persistent and she was in a quandary about what to do.

Daniel was worried that so sweet a girl was getting involved in complications that should play no part in her life. He wanted to ignore the advice of Rav Dov and simply tell her everything.

As soon as Daniel entered the house he saw that Esther was tense. She asked him how his day had been and then she said, "We haven't spoken of our families. My father is in learning. My mother works part-time as a bookkeeper for a ladies dress shop. I have three sisters, all younger than I. The oldest has just completed her year at seminary and is looking for work. The other two are still in elementary school."

She smiled at him and then she was silent. It was clearly time for him to tell about his family. Daniel opened his mouth. Instead of telling the whole complex saga of his sudden arrival in Jerusalem he found himself telling her exactly what Rav Dov had advised him. "My father is a businessman," he said.

Well that was true. "My mother helped him for the first few years but then when her help wasn't needed she mostly spent her time on charity work."

Well, that too was true. "My family mostly ignored the mitzvos, and so did I until I came here."

Then it all came out in a burst. "I am not at present in contact with my family."

How strange all this must sound, thought Daniel. Now the girl would refuse to see him again. Why had he listened to Rav Dov?

Esther felt his hurt. How terrible it must be to have no siblings, to have parents that didn't share your way of life. She wanted to say something to bring comfort to him but found herself afflicted with her old enemy, tongue-tied shyness wracking her. They spoke for a while of other things — that the weather was beginning to cool down, of his ideas for education, of her education at Bais Yaakov — but the meeting went badly and finished early.

Esther forced herself to speak to her parents, telling them of what she had been told, adding in a tight sad voice, "If he wants to meet me again, I will see him. But he won't want to see me, I am sure."

Daniel called Yehudit. "If she will see me again that is fine. If she doesn't want to then I understand."

He wished that he had never begun this process. It had started him thinking of how much he wanted his own home. It brought his longing for his parents and his intense worry for them back into sharp focus. Even after his walk late at night, tired though he was, he tossed and turned and could not get to sleep.

Both Esther and Daniel were surprised to find themselves once again facing each other. Esther kept as far away from matters of America and his family as she could. They spoke of attitudes to life, almost as if they were attending an academic convention.

Slowly they forgot the hurt of the previous meeting and they spoke frankly and found they had the same views on the importance of learning, the type of atmosphere they thought best for children to grow up in, and current attitudes in the frum community to a whole variety of issues from sheitels to the issue of Hebrew and Yiddish.

Daniel once again looked at his watch and saw that he had stayed longer than the time the shadchan had advised. He said before leaving, "Does it not worry you that it could be that you may never meet my family?"

But he left before waiting for an answer.

He ran down a few steps. Then he ran up again, rang the bell again, and said, "I should have waited for your answer."

Esther said, "Whatever you decide — about meeting or not meeting — I would accept that you know best."

The engagement proceedings followed immediately after the fourth date. Rav Bernstein and his wife came from Bnei Brak to act as family representatives for Daniel. The celebration was small but joyous.

Daniel had asked the man whom he helped each morning in the small store to attend. "It would mean so much to me if you and your wife came," he said after he pulled the last load into the shop.

His wife told Esther, "Such a fine young man . . . every day he helps my husband . . . early in the morning when others are still asleep," and with that she handed a small package to Esther.

"A small gift" she said.

Later when they opened it together, they found a key and a note. "The apartment has been painted. Look around. If you want to make use of it for the beginning of your married life then that is our present to you."

Both Esther and Daniel were stunned. Accommodation in that area was at a premium and this solved a whole host of problems in one fell swoop.

So Esther and Daniel were married a week after Chanukah, in a small but pleasant ceremony. They furnished the small apartment above the store with secondhand furniture. Daniel found a kollel that accepted him. Esther continued with her work.

Under the chuppah both had davened fervently for the same thing: that Daniel should be reunited with his parents. But as the first months of their married life passed by, it seemed that this was not to be.

 

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