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Prominent Roshei Yeshiva Meet About Limiting Wedding Expenses

by A. Cohen

At the initiative of maranan verabonon, the roshei yeshiva met recently in the home of HaRav Nissim Karelitz in Bnei Brak to discuss marrying off one's children in an honorable manner. The issue, which has reached the point of pikuach Nefesh, has been one of the most urgent ones on the agenda of the chareidi community in Eretz Yisroel for quite some time.

This issue constitutes a danger to the future development of the Torah world in Eretz Yisroel, according to askonim active in the matter.

The meeting was opened by HaRav Nissim Karelitz, who said that the purpose of the meeting was to clarify the need for all roshei yeshivos -- the generation's educators -- to set the tone in the Torah world, and to inform bnei Torah that the most honorable, correct lifestyle for them to pursue is a frugal, modest one. HaRav Karelitz said that adhering to such a lifestyle will enable the continuation of a flourishing Torah world. He explained that the genuine Torah home is based on histapkus. It is inappropriate for a true ben Torah to encumber his family with unnecessary burdens, he noted.

HaRav A. Dvir presented the view of HaRav Yosef Sholom Eliashiv, which is that bnei Torah should be taught to cultivate the trait of histapkus; to limit wedding expenses and general living expenses, and to purchase smaller apartments. Both sides should share the burden equally.

HaRav Chizkia Mishkovsky presented the opinion of HaRav Aharon Leib Steinman, who also noted that the trait of histapkus should set the tone when marrying off one's children. He then said that HaRav Steinman felt that the purpose of the meeting was to urge the roshei yeshiva - - of the generation's educators -- to devise ways to convey the trait of genuine ahavas haTorah to the younger generation. This would ensure that the daughter of a talmid chochom would be able to marry an excellent yeshiva student without her father having to leave his Torah studies. He then added in the name of HaRav Steinman that bnei Torah should seek mates with good character traits and qualities, since this is kvodo shel Torah and darko shel Torahand the manner in which future generations should be raised. Bnei Torah should also play active roles in protecting their parents' health by limiting wedding expenses. Through such conduct, one grows in Torah, yiras Shomayim and good character traits. All this is the basis of the Jewish home; the basis of our future generation, and the basis of the continuation of Torah within our yeshivos.

HaRav Yehuda Silman discussed efforts being made to find practical solutions.

HaRav Shmuel Shapira sent his blessings to the meeting and praised the initiative to try to solve the problem.

It was decided that HaRav Nissim Karelitz along with HaRav Boruch Povarksy, HaRav Tzvi Kushelevski and HaRav Yosef Chaim Kopshitz would meet to discuss ways of easing the situation.

The following rabbonim were present at the meeting: HaRav Boruch Rosenberg, the rosh yeshiva of Slobodke; HaRav G. Edelstein, one of the roshei yeshiva of Ponovezh; HaRav Boruch Dov Povarksy, one of the roshei yeshiva of Ponovezh; HaRav E. Zaks, one of the roshei yeshiva of Slobodke; HaRav M. A. Hirsch, rosh yeshiva of Slobodke; HaRav Yosef Chaim Kopshitz; HaRav D. Cohen, rosh yeshiva of Hevron; HaRav Yitzchok Ehrenfeld, rosh yeshiva of Beis Shmuel; HaRav Y. Rosen, rosh yeshiva of Or Yisroel; HaRav Dovid Mann, rosh yeshiva of Knesses Chizkiyahu; HaRav M. Y. Shlesinger, rosh yeshiva of Kol Torah; HaRav B. Weissbecker, rosh yeshiva of Beis Mattisyahu; HaRav M. Berlin, rosh yeshiva of Rabbenu Chaim Ozer; HaRav G. Y. Levi, rosh yeshiva of Beer HaTorah; HaRav Y. Ehrenberg, rosh yeshiva of Knesses Yitzchok Hadera; HaRav Tzvi Kushelevski, rosh yeshiva of Heichal HaTorah- Pressburg; HaRav Avrohom Yitzchok Kook, rosh yeshiva of Me'or HaTalmud Rechovot; HaRav M. Kopshitz, one of the roshei yeshiva of Kol Torah; HaRav Dovid Shapira, one of the roshei yeshiva of Beer Yaakov; HaRav Simcha Scheinberg, one of the roshei yeshiva of Torah Or.

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